Creating Lasting Change

Creating change can be challenging, but making changes stick can be a whole other ball game. So unless your Hermione Grainger and have a magical wand to create your desires changes commitment and persistence will be on the list. So remember.....

"You Only Fail When You Give Up"

I have put together a short few tips to support you enabling your changes to stick, because lets face it who wants to FAIL? Yup didn't think so!!

• Tip 1.

Discover your WHY. Get really clear on why you are making the change, and what will be the results of the effort you make in implementing this change.  It might be you will spend less time on facebook, and more time snuggled up with a book, you clear the clutter to in-still a felling of calmness when you sit down to relax, or you quit sugar to support your digestive system.  Whatever your change get really clear on your why, and then write it down

• Tip 2

Reminders are key- out of sight out of mind- sound familiar?? Place your written WHY somewhere you will see it several times a day. Place a picture on your phone if you feel this will support you and set your alarm as an added reminder. These reminders will then become your new routine to support your changes.

• Tip 3

Find an accountability partner to help keep you on track.  If you need a little encouragement come and join our supportive Love Your Life Online Community we are going to be starting some weekly accountability pairings, so if you need a little nudge (and by that I mean Bum Kicking) this might just be the place for you!!

• Tip 4

Avoid puppy-itis. Focus your time and energy, and make just one change at a time, once you have mastered this start on the next one,  

• Tip 5

Having FUN makes life and lasting change just a little easier. I don't want to have FUN said no person ever!!

When Dreams Come True

It’s 3 am and I’m writing from beautiful Bali, the hum of my air conditioning, the stillness all around, the joy within- what a dream come true it is to be here.

About 12 years ago I fell in love with Bali, an island which I had never experienced yet had a love affair with, Bali had captured my heart.  My guide book sat on my book shelf, often hidden but never forgotten about, a yearning, a knowing and then came Eat, Pray, Love!! 

So for 12 years I dreamed, and felt the energetic pull towards this island.  12 years of waiting, dreaming, putting it on my vision board, wondering if it would ever happen and then yesterday it finally did, I met Bali.

I sat by the sea this morning, hiding in the tiny patch of shade under a tree, the sand cool, the hustle of people all around, yet everything faded into the background, the Goosebumps swelled, the tears came- this was what I had been waiting for.  My heart had been reunited with it’s lover- the connection so strong, the energy so pure. 

Many people have and will continue to question my sanity, especially those who know how my body re-acts to travelling especially long haul, people have asked could I not go somewhere closer to home but my answer was a clear resounding NO, the 15 hours of flights, the stop over, the transfers were all worth it. 

Dreams are not for substituting- they are for LIVING.

I strongly believe that if you can dig deep enough beyond all the conditioning and societal expectations you will uncover your very own Bali.

All my heart people will get this straight off, that feeling that you can’t describe in any logical way, that knowing and that unexplainable yet very clear why.  Living from this place deep within the heart is a joy, a privilege, a blessing and a challenge all mixed together.

Heart space living requires you to look fear in the eyes, to dance with it and master it, to befriend it, so that you can move into an expansive freedom, far beyond any humanistic experience that many of us have been thought to believe in.

Over the last 12 years it has not always been possible for me to live in this way or take this trip. Often making it down the stairs in my house was long-haul travel, and I can giggle at this comparison now, but for years this was my reality, health was the bridge I was crossing.  And at times it felt like that bridge broke, I was free falling and terrified, there was no heart space living there was simply surviving.

Over the last few months I have  been busy working with my own coaches, cos lets face it- none of us are an island (except my dear Bali) and together with their support I unleashed operation freedom- as it was named.  I sold my Montessori school, to move fully in to the work which I love, the work that doesn’t feel like work.  And that my dearest friends is freedom, sharing your heart and opening to the expansiveness of life, to feeling the fear and having the courage and compassion to move through it, and ultimately to follow your heart.

So I encourage you to look within and explore, to dig just a little deeper, to sit with the discomfort and reconnect with your beautiful heart- the true centre of your being, rediscover those hidden dreams, and start moving toward making them your reality.

With love and HIGH vibes from Bali,

Laura x

Rewired Book Tour- The Art Of Loving Yourself Unconditionally.

I am honoured to be part of the ReWired Blog Tour- 17 bloggers from around our precious globe spilling the beans on self-love, healing body and mind and celebrating LIFE.

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Loving ourselves can be pretty easy at times, especially when life is going good, when we are not feeling challenged it’s easier to stay in that space of love for others and for ourselves, but when things get bumpy how much love and compassion do you show to yourself?

Many of us have grown up, especially in Ireland always putting everyone else first, with the concept of loving oneself being tightly knit to selfishness, so loving yourself can be a heck of a stretch for most, with feelings of shame and guilt arising for actually putting yourself first.  But what if for just a moment you could start to imagine what it would be like to love the most important person in your life, unconditionally, warts and all.  What if you could LOVE YOU, and I don’t just mean like, I mean love!

My journey has thought me this lesson, and I recognise the difference when I’m side tracked or when I’m taking care of me, because let’s face it we take care of the people and things we value and love.  When I’m side tracked, the road gets a little bumpy, my self-care routines which contribute so greatly to my well-being slip further down my to do list, and I feel disconnected.  On the flip side, when I take the time to nourish myself I am a different person, I am the person I want to be- and that doesn’t mean that challenges don’t appear, but it does mean that they are effortless to overcome, and this is why self love is essential in living a fulfilling life.

So I encourage you to notice how you can love yourself just a little more, what acts of kindness can you take today to support your body, mind and soul to harmonise and celebrate your amazing life?

The following self-care practices are vital for me to stay grounded and feel connected, they contribute so much to me loving myself, and as a result loving my life.

1.       Routines keep me grounded.  My daily self-care routine consists of a spiritual practice of yoga, meditation & mantra, a walk in nature (unless the puddles are too deep) and an afternoon nap- All ESSENTIAL to my well-being.

2.       Energy is like currency- I get to choose where I shop.  I carefully choose how and where to spend my precious energy.  Setting boundaries and learning to say a guilt free ‘NO’ will be a precious gift to yourself.  But be warned it takes a little practice to move past the feelings of guilt.

3.       Manage and minimise stress.  As someone diagnosed with several chronic health conditions it is essential for me to minimise the amount of stress in my life, some days it doesn’t exist, but other days provide the potential for overwhelm.  When these busy days arise I simple ask the question ‘is this supporting my wellbeing?’, sometimes the answer is yes, in that I want to complete a project, other times it’s a hell no, so it gets cleared from my schedule.  

4.       Build your bedtime routine.  Sleep is a vital time when your body restores and replenishes itself and is a key to prevent burnout.  Begin to build a supportive routine, and remember what you see, hear, experience and think about just before bed is what you will marinate in- so choose wisely. Use a guided relaxation (like this free sweet dreams deep relaxation), to help you drop into a space of stillness, practice gratitude, have a bath, connect with your breath, you will know what works best for you.

5.       Create a life worth living.  Start dreaming, and I suggest dreaming BIG.  Then start investing in your dreams, gather your supporters and start inching towards your dreams, knowing that every decision you make that connects you with your dream is a step closer.  Become aware of the feeling of blissful excitement as your dreams start to unfold, because I promise you when you nurture you, you will have FAR more to offer the world.

If your still lost and not sure where to start take a moment to reflect on how you love and care for the most important person in your life? How does it look, what do you do? Now place yourself in that place, and start doing it for YOU.

Yesterday’s blog from Danielle Hughes from Earth Wisdom Teachings explores 5 steps to support your self love  and Rebecca Mc Keon share waking up to your own magnificence tomorrow.

If you would like to read more about Audrey’s Michel's book Rewired Life click here for your free chapter.

With Love,

Laura x

Restoring A Sense Of Balance.

It’s now the middle of January, and if you’re anything like me you’ll be glad to get back to a routine which supports your being on every level- physically, emotionally, energetically and mentally.  I am glad to see the back of the Christmas sweeties, as like a magpie, I am drawn to their twinkling wrappers and the sugar hit that follows.  But I have recognised that this year more than ever, that certain habits which I found myself falling into over the Christmas festivities did not serve me.

Over the years I have recognised how similar we all are, so I reckon if I’m feeling the aftermath of Christmas there is a high possibility you are too, so I've put together 5 suggestions to empower you to take care of your body and get it back to its optimum functioning level.

So now I ask the question I found myself pondering over Christams “What if you could do a few simple things which could help to restore your sense of connection and balance in your life, would you?”  I have included a few suggestions of simple changes which can have a BIG impact, and are part of my normal (outside Christmas) routine.

I would encourage you to carve out some time in your day, and by that I mean commit to 10, 20, 30 minutes of me time each day- making it non-negotiable, and then using this time in a way that truly benefits YOU.

I strongly believe it’s essential to look after our physical body first to enable us to actually be present to the changes we would like to make.  For example if our physical body is out of kilter it’s almost impossible to think clearly and find the motivation to implement lifelong changes.

So the following changes are recommendations to get you back on track after the festive season.

1.     Get Organised.  It’s very difficult to implement changes if we are flying by the seat of your pants, so identify what it is that you want to change and make a list of what / when you will do this.

2.     Get moving. Our lymphatic system does not have a pump to move the toxins in our body, so when you move so do the toxins.  Simple changes like getting off the bus a stop or two early, or going for a quick walk at lunch will make a big difference.  Don’t forget that exercise releases endorphins (the feel good hormone) so not only are you helping your physical body but your mental well-being.   

3.     Hydration.  Drink 7 – 8 glasses of water each day, and by water I do actually mean water, but if this will be too challenging and you want to supplement some water with herbal teas (do check their caffeine content, as not all herbal teas are as healthy as you might think).  Staying properly hydrated will keep your body functioning at an optimum level, preventing constipation, sluggishness and helping to detox your system after Christmas.

4.     Get to bed earlier.  Allow time so you have the opportunity to sleep for 7 to 8 hours each night, Ayurveda believes that sleeping between 10 pm & 2am is the best time to enable your body to restore and replenish itself. Put a bedtime routine in place that enables you to wind down and fall asleep easily, such as switching off the tv earlier, taking a bath, stretching your body- you will know what works best for you.   

5.     Become more aware of what you’re eating and aim for a more balanced diet- we all know the foods we ‘shouldn’t’ eat, yet an 80% / 20% approach makes our tasty treats and the focus of a balanced diet more achievable.  Whilst on your 80% try to eat local fresh food, rather than processed foods.

As with any changes there will always be a level of resistance, so it will take a commitment, but I have no doubt that once you tune into your body you will discover the wisdom which lies within, and restore yourself back to balance.

Once you become more aware of your thoughts, habits and patterns you will begin to become more experienced in the art of self-care.  And by that I mean taking care of yourself, the way you would a child or a friend, but now we are talking about YOU.  

Take some time to honour yourself, your needs and your desires, because when we take care of ourselves we have so much more to offer the world.

The Mosaic Of My Life.

So to continue the story of India in a nutshell, the process got harder than I could have imagined, not so much this year on a physical level, but on a thought / feeling / psychological level, a whole new can was opening to me. I was privileged, wasn’t I?  To drop down into the unconscious layers of my being, a process which I had been working towards for many years, but what I found was far from what I desired.  Painful childhood memories, every imaginable fear and phobia arose which was then amplified with the addition of panic attacks, I was here to be healed, yet all I wanted was to get the hell outa here! 

Welcoming the dawn and saying farewell to my final moon in India.

My years of self-care and spiritual practices thought me to trust, to trust when even the tiniest glimmer seemed to be extinguished, so I knew this was simply something I had to go through to bring me back to me, why I was not sure, but I knew and held tight to the trust.  I went to India to be healed and came back broken.

As a coach I often say to people find your why, because in your why lies your motivation, so throughout the four weeks of treatment I held steady on my why, talked about it, meditated on it, visualised it, so my why, and the amazing people in my life both in India and via skype kept me going.

I invested everything in my why, energetically, physically, emotionally, financially, and when I came home I found out that my why, hadn’t worked in the way I wanted.  In fact my TSH levels were now at a critical level, I could barely walk, I was in agonising pain, completely exhausted, couldn’t concentrate or focus, I was like a zombie.  So I took the decision to go back on my medication.

It was at this point that I downed tools on everything, I delegated like a queen, cancelled yoga classes, stopped coaching, and for the following six weeks I focussed on going inwards, doing everything inspiring, I mingled with high vibe conscious people, I listened carefully for guidance, yet there was no voice, so instead of abandoning me, I trusted.  

I took myself on a spiritual retreat which I had booked before India was even on the cards, I was going because I had booked it, not because I really wanted to, I wanted to wallow I was broken- remember and a two hour train ride wasn’t high on my priorities list, I was still trying to process everything, did I really need to mix more into the pot?

But it was in these two and a half magical days that I met me, a part of me that I did not know even existed, a part of me that had been buried under conditioning, life and yet there I was all along.  I came home to who I was, not who I thought I was, I found peace with my illness, I was not cured but healed. 

Satsang with Miranda Mac Phearson- a true privilege.

Within the following few days I ended a relationship, gave the keys back to my beautiful home and since mid-May I have been working on strengthening my connection with me, and the guidance is talking, my life is flowing in a way it has never done before.

I am getting to create the mosaic of my life, I can take all the shattered pieces of my life and create a life of beauty, meaning and purpose.

Heartsong Mandala from Kevin James Carroll chanting event in Dublin.

My Latest Healing Adventure

This morning my newsfeed on facebook showed me a picture that I posted exactly a year ago today, which was an identical scene to the one I had just left only moments before- so for those who didn't get the memo I'm back in India.

Once I decided to return to India people instantly kept asking me to keep a blog again, but each time it just didn't feel right, and although I thought I wouldn't, I find myself today, 20 days in feeling a little inspired to write.

Its kind of a sense of De-Ja-Vu here everything seems the same, yet is totally different.  I am different. Last year I found the panchakarma process very physically challenging, but this year it has dropped to a completely different level.  

When I returned from my 5 week panchakarma experience last May my medical teams, were delighted (and slightly intrigued) at how I had re-booted my body, and stabilised my bloodwork.  For the majority of 2014 & 2015 I have been really healthy, and felt like I had been given my life back.. So I got busy doing all the things which I had not been able or well enough to do over the previous years.

As many of you know I booked this trip with about 1 - 2 weeks notice, shortly after finding out my thyroid had switched itself off.  This in itself was a major wake up call, I began to delegate and to re-focus my health (AGAIN) as my #1 priority. 
 

For most people a diagnoses like this can be a relief, a pinned down condition and a treatment plan, for me getting this news was devastating.  Initially I felt steam rolled by failure, that everything I had worked towards, especially in the last two years to regain my health had been a waste.

You see in January I finally completed my coach training, and got started working on my new wellness company, something which I had felt called to do for such a long time, but had not been well enough to do.  So at last I was well enough to take the training, had enough energy to infuse into my new company and then came the SMACK!! 

The news became even more traumatic- that I was not the glowing example of 'healthy and well' that I was pinning my company on.  I wanted to start this new venture to give hope to people that despite a diagnosis you can make decisions to empower and encourage your healing and wellbeing.  Love Your Life (my new wellness company) would offer techniques and tools from coaching, yoga & meditation to empower and inspire people to transform their lives and health.  Yet I found myself thinking 'who am I to deliver this message, you can't even maintain your own health'.

Doubt and vulnerability are two key emotions that every entrepreneur feels as they share their offerings with the world.   For me dancing with wellness has been a major aspect of my life for the last 10 years, so this offering came from deep within my heart.  All this combined, my ego was having a field day, bashing me down, and now this set back just 'confirmed' I was not good enough to start this wellness company.

Fortunately I have 10 years of experience in this wellness dance, and as one of my favorite authors always say- 'life is your classroom, to teach is to learn' and by god am I learning!!

I was forced to face my ego, my chronic illness', my own beliefs and wellness practices, and whilst it might sound dramatic I felt rocked to my core.  I had to dig deep and examine how best I should proceed.  Having taken medication for the guts of 9 years, and rarely had a quality of life which I have experienced over the last year I was faced with the FEAR dilemma....Should I follow my doctors prescription out of fear of what might happen, or should I do what has worked for my body in the past, both filled with risks, and whilst paralyzed by doubt and fear choosing my path became increasingly difficult. 
 

Yet slowly with the love, encouragement and support of my cheerleaders aka all you amazing people in my life I began to acknowledge and recognise that six of my chronic illness' were (and still are) in remission- I was doing amazing!!

So this is something I began to focus upon, and choosing my healing path became simpler, once I began to dissolve the fear.

Having met so many inspiring people here in India who have or are experiencing health conditions (be they chronic or not), I am feeling even more inspired and called to get Love Your Life off the ground, so if you want to join me with a daily(ish) slice of positivity pop over here to join my journey.

If you want to read all about round 1 of India aka my 2014 healing adventure all the gory details can be found here.
 

Sending love to each of you, and some morning sunshine from India xxxxxxxxxxx